Burning Butterflies

Discipleship Double Standard: Women's Ministry vs Beer Ministry

Today the ladies dive into the unspoken yet pervasive double standards within Come As You Are.
 
Women are often expected to shoulder a litany of duties: keeping the house spotless, cooking meals, making sure to have a daily quiet time, attending Bible studies, ensuring the homework for those studies is completed, serving the church tirelessly, and participating in women's breakfasts. To top it all off, their conversations with other women are monitored by figures like Charlotte, who ensure they are 'good disciples' and are making more disciples.
 
Contrast this with the expectations placed on men: show up at church, serve when possible, work hard, and make money (because tithing is crucial). Anything a man does for the church is seen as remarkable, and activities like drinking beer are hailed as discipleship if they mention church, God, or Jesus.
 
Join us as we explore these glaring disparities. It's a conversation that might challenge your perspectives and ignite a flame for change.
 
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Celebrate Good Times: Melissa Accidentally Throws Tom a Party

In this episode of Burning Butterflies, we're diving into the chaotic yet revealing story of Melissa's attempt to throw a party.
 
Initially intended to celebrate Froggy's 40th birthday with a "Game of Life" theme, the event takes unexpected turns. Brandi ditches the party, Amanda gets yelled at, and Charlotte and Froggy derail the plans, turning the celebration into a 60th birthday bash for Pastor Tom.
 
We'll unpack the strange dynamics of celebrating milestones like birthdays at Come As You Are and explore how this particular party further strained the relationship between Melissa and Amanda.
 
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Called to Lead: A Deep Dive Into The Pastors of Come As You Are

Welcome to Chapter Three!
 
In this episode of Burning Butterflies, hosts Amanda, Melissa, and Brandi delve into the tumultuous history of pastoral leadership at the Come As You Are Church. Founded by Tom in 1998, the church has seen a steady stream of pastors come and go, each chosen solely based on Tom's authority, with little formal training and no vetting process.
 
Join the ladies as they uncover the stories behind these ever-changing leaders, explore the impact of this instability on the congregation, and discuss the arrival of Pastor Young Gun in 2015, who brought a new dynamic to the church.
 
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Chapter 3: Ruins to Redemption

Welcome to Chapter Three! 
"Ruins to Redemption" 
This chapter covers the years 2015-2016, which are some of the darkest times in the lives of Melissa, Amanda and Brandi. 
In this mini episode, the ladies wrap up some loose ends from Chapter 2 and give you a sneak peek into Chapter 3. 

Christmas Chaos: Traditions, Expectations & Baby Jesus

In this final episode of Chapter 2, the ladies take a reflective journey through their experiences with Christmas Eve services at "Come As You Are."
 
Melissa shares the immense pressure she felt to constantly outdo herself, striving for perfection under Pastor Tom's watchful eye. Meanwhile, Brandi opens up about the challenges of making sure the children are seen but never heard in these "family" services. In a rare act of boundary setting, Amanda shares that she never attended a single Christmas Eve service—an action that shocks her friends and challenges the church community's norms.
 
Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they unpack the complexities of holiday traditions, faith, and expectations.
 
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Forced & Fractured Friendships: Tales From the Fall Campaign

Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they dive deep into the complexities of the 401 class at "Come As You Are." The fall campaign had everyone buzzing with anticipation, but what ensued was a tangled web of manipulation, misplaced priorities, and unexpected challenges.
 
Brandi opens up about her experience, recounting how she found herself in a group where camaraderie revolved more around drinking than delving into the course material. Meanwhile, Amanda shares her struggle with being pushed out of the group with her friends and being forced into taking on a group in her home. And Melissa's story takes a poignant turn as she describes her reluctant role in supporting Froggy, all while wearing a forced smile.
 
Join the trio as they unpack the intricacies of how churches use small groups and large church campaigns to breed control.
 
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Marriage Nightmare: Melissa Breaks the Silence

In this gripping episode of Burning Butterflies, Melissa shares her story of domestic abuse, revealing the hidden layers of pain and manipulation she endured within her marriage.
 
But the story doesn't end there. Melissa shares how the toxic environment of "Come As You Are" exacerbated the abuse. Despite the signs of distress, she was convinced that God would perform a miracle, mending the fractures in her relationship.
 
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Searching for Connection: The Reality of Mom's Group

In this eye-opening episode, the ladies of the Burning Butterflies Podcast sit down to discuss the unique challenges faced by wives and mothers at "Come As You Are"
 
With an expectation for women to be stay at home mothers, many find themselves depressed and overwhelmed. The proposed solution? Mom's group. But what happens in an environment where friendships are forced, mental health is off-limits, and the only common thread is sharing birth stories?
 
Tune in as we explore the impact on relationships, the struggle for genuine connection, and the quest for real support in a setting where superficiality reigns. Don't miss this candid conversation!
 
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Brandi Drinks the Kool-Aid: The Aftermath of VBS

In this episode, the ladies sit down to discuss the aftermath of Agency D3 VBS and how Brandi was sucked in to "Come As You Are" so quickly. 
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Agency D3: Discover, Decide, Defend!

Join Melissa, Amanda, and Brandi as they  revisit the chaos of their first VBS together, just 2 short weeks after Brandi first walked in the doors! In this episode, the ladies reminisce about the unforgettable experience with "Agency D3," the most engaging curriculum the church had ever used.
 
Despite the excitement, the event quickly spiraled into comedic disarray. From the pastor's grand illusions of saving the entire community, to the overwhelming unpreparedness for over 300 energetic kids, every mishap became a catalyst for uproarious chaos.
 
Get ready for a rollercoaster ride in this revealing episode about the VBS that became the stuff of legend at Come as You Are!
 
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